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Leur enfance

Ou comment trouver le juste milieu...

It's hard to find the right balance, especially when you've been a victim yourself. The world appears like a jungle where potential aggressors seem to be everywhere and to have all faces.

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Everywhere, we believe we see a danger for our children. Everywhere we want to protect them from the evil from which no one has protected us at their age. We are so afraid of not seeing, of not perceiving their silent and often invisible suffering.

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But our story belongs only to us. It is not that of our children. It belongs to the past. We know the weight of it. Why bring it to our children? But above all, all those fears which, if you think about it too much, often become irrational, will never avoid the dangers that will always end up approaching them.

I understand you so much. I was raped by my brother from the age of 6 to the age of 9. We slept in the same room, the same bed. This is what made his crimes possible because they stopped as soon as we were separated. Because when my two boys, aged 9 and 6, while renovating our new house, wanted to share the same room, my blood, my soul, my sanity, everything started to boil. inside.

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Thanks to my wife who knew how to find the words, I took it upon myself and tried to reason with myself. I let them live out their childhoods, their complicity. Because in the end, their request was just normal. It was what my brother did to me that was abnormal.

We cannot prevent what has to happen. It's called fate and everyone has their own to accomplish, with their own baggage. Childhood is what builds us. It must be lived with its joys and sorrows, with its carelessness and awareness. Whatever our history, we must not trap our children in our fears.

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We must always and as much as possible put ourselves at their level, take the time to talk to them but especially to listen to them. Trust them and more so trust us. More than anyone, we will know how to alert ourselves to their silences, their changes in behavior. We will know how to see what others do not see, precisely because we have experienced it.